Internet dating is not as awful as I had anticipated, though I have not, as yet, gone on any actual dates and indeed am really wary about doing so. I’ve had some messages from one or two people that resulted in some nice email exchanges. The idea that we might go do coffee has been put forward. One hopes that if chemistry and the laws of attraction and life and other things don’t pan out, that the option for expanding local community is still open. One problem with sites like these is you run into people and think, “Dude! I don’t want to date you but I’d love to hang out, I think we’d have fun and be great pals.” but of course, everyone is there to hook up, so “let’s just be friends” doesn’t often result in an invitation to come to regular poker games or beer and pizza nights with the guys. And that’s sad, because I am not too bad at just being one of the guys, too. Even if I am usually knitting while I’m playing poker. And I could use some more plain, old, garden variety friends of the flesh and blood variety.
Then there’ve been one or two messages from people that made me think things like…
“No, I’m not going to help you get your green card.” and “Oh my god you’ve got to be kidding, did you even READ my profile or did your little horny Republican ass just register ‘female’ and ‘breathing’?” and “No, I don’t want to f*ck your wife while you watch.”
But on the whole, not as awful as I feared. I think I do live in a good area for it. There’s a lot of folks here in So Cal and it’s entirely possible to miss like minded individuals in the sheer crush of humanity.
And if none of that pans out, well… I’ve got plenty of hilarity ensuing around here with just me and the cats.