When you see the news reports about “Local teen dies in car accident” usually you spare a brief thought for that anonymous family, but you don’t think about it very hard. You don’t think hard about the family that is left in pieces because it is not anyone you know. It is “local teen” and it does not affect you. It is not a hole in the fabric of your life. Then one day, you find out that “local teen” was someone known to you, the child of a friend, a classmate, something. God forbid, family. And it affects you. It becomes a tangible hole, a tragedy that is unfolding in front of you and you can’t avoid it.

One of my daughter’s good friends died last night in a car accident. He was more than just a local teen. He was somebody’s son, brother, grandson, cousin, friend. He mattered to a lot of people, he was loved and cherished and wanted. He had his whole life ahead of him, a bright shiny future. It is too big. The hole left behind is too big. It is senseless and a waste and it is too big for words. That family is altered, forever and nothing will ever mend it. We are not supposed to bury our children. This is forever and there’s no going back.

His poor family. I can’t imagine. I feel so bad for them.

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4 Responses to

  1. Cara says:

    You’re right, there are no words. Sometimes I think my MIL is right, to just stop watching the news or reading the paper, but pretending this tragedies don’t happen won’t make them stop.

    I am de-lurking here, but I see you are also doing Clapotis. I just got the yarn and am trying to psych my way into starting into it. I thought I was the last knitter in America to try Clapotis, but I finally have the skills…

    Cara,
    formerly of L.A, now in Indi-where-the-heck-did-I-make-a-wrong turn-ana.

  2. sopranospinner says:

    Oh, I’m so sorry for the tragic news! I’ve been working on interviews myself about kidnappings and disappeared kids and that’s really hitting home for me, too. The guilt the parents feel, as well as the emptiness, just terrible.

    My thoughts are with you and your daughter in this difficult time.

  3. Will Pillage For Yarn says:

    Thanks SS. It’s just terribly sad. I think probably his mom and family could use those good thoughts of yours even more – this is just so incredibly hard for them. Unimaginable, you know?

    Cara, I think people ignoring it just makes it happen more. We have to talk about it and point it out and jump up and down and scream NOT OK and try to make people listen. But it’s painful to pay attention, you’re right. As far as Clapotis… you can do it! It’s easy and fun.

  4. K8 says:

    I’m so sorry to hear that. My brother passed away at 18 this year, and it seems like such a young age. I’m sorry for your daughter – it’s a rough thing to go through. It’s one thing to read about these sorts of tragedies in the papers, but it’s completely different when it touches you.

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